| Recorded at | February 29, 2012 |
|---|---|
| Event | TED2012 |
| Duration (min:sec) | 19:27 |
| Video Type | TED Stage Talk |
| Words per minute | 158.46 slow |
| Readability (FK) | 59.58 easy |
| Speaker | Sherry Turkle |
| Country | United States of America |
| Occupation | psychologist, sociologist |
| Description | American social scientist and psychologist |
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Synopsis
As we expect more from technology, do we expect less from each other? Sherry Turkle studies how our devices and online personas are redefining human connection and communication -- and asks us to think deeply about the new kinds of connection we want to have.
| 1 | 00:15 | Just a moment ago, | ||
| 2 | 00:17 | my daughter Rebecca texted me for good luck. | ||
| 3 | 00:21 | Her text said, | ||
| 4 | 00:23 | "Mom, you will rock." | ||
| 5 | 00:26 | I love this. | ||
| 6 | 00:28 | Getting that text | ||
| 7 | 00:30 | was like getting a hug. | ||
| 8 | 00:32 | And so there you have it. | ||
| 9 | 00:35 | I embody | ||
| 10 | 00:37 | the central paradox. | ||
| 11 | 00:39 | I'm a woman | ||
| 12 | 00:41 | who loves getting texts | ||
| 13 | 00:43 | who's going to tell you | ||
| 14 | 00:45 | that too many of them can be a problem. | ||
| 15 | 00:48 | Actually that reminder of my daughter | ||
| 16 | 00:51 | brings me to the beginning of my story. | ||
| 17 | 00:54 | 1996, when I gave my first TEDTalk, | ||
| 18 | 00:58 | Rebecca was five years old | ||
| 19 | 01:00 | and she was sitting right there | ||
| 20 | 01:02 | in the front row. | ||
| 21 | 01:04 | I had just written a book | ||
| 22 | 01:06 | that celebrated our life on the internet | ||
| 23 | 01:08 | and I was about to be on the cover | ||
| 24 | 01:11 | of Wired magazine. | ||
| 25 | 01:13 | In those heady days, | ||
| 26 | 01:15 | we were experimenting | ||
| 27 | 01:17 | with chat rooms and online virtual communities. | ||
| 28 | 01:20 | We were exploring different aspects of ourselves. | ||
| 29 | 01:24 | And then we unplugged. | ||
| 30 | 01:26 | I was excited. | ||
| 31 | 01:28 | And, as a psychologist, what excited me most | ||
| 32 | 01:31 | was the idea | ||
| 33 | 01:33 | that we would use what we learned in the virtual world | ||
| 34 | 01:36 | about ourselves, about our identity, | ||
| 35 | 01:39 | to live better lives in the real world. | ||
| 36 | 01:42 | Now fast-forward to 2012. | ||
| 37 | 01:45 | I'm back here on the TED stage again. | ||
| 38 | 01:48 | My daughter's 20. She's a college student. | ||
| 39 | 01:51 | She sleeps with her cellphone, | ||
| 40 | 01:55 | so do I. | ||
| 41 | 01:57 | And I've just written a new book, | ||
| 42 | 02:00 | but this time it's not one | ||
| 43 | 02:03 | that will get me on the cover | ||
| 44 | 02:05 | of Wired magazine. | ||
| 45 | 02:07 | So what happened? | ||
| 46 | 02:10 | I'm still excited by technology, | ||
| 47 | 02:13 | but I believe, | ||
| 48 | 02:15 | and I'm here to make the case, | ||
| 49 | 02:17 | that we're letting it take us places | ||
| 50 | 02:19 | that we don't want to go. | ||
| 51 | 02:21 | Over the past 15 years, | ||
| 52 | 02:23 | I've studied technologies of mobile communication | ||
| 53 | 02:26 | and I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds of people, | ||
| 54 | 02:29 | young and old, | ||
| 55 | 02:31 | about their plugged in lives. | ||
| 56 | 02:33 | And what I've found | ||
| 57 | 02:35 | is that our little devices, | ||
| 58 | 02:37 | those little devices in our pockets, | ||
| 59 | 02:40 | are so psychologically powerful | ||
| 60 | 02:42 | that they don't only change what we do, | ||
| 61 | 02:46 | they change who we are. | ||
| 62 | 02:49 | Some of the things we do now with our devices | ||
| 63 | 02:51 | are things that, only a few years ago, | ||
| 64 | 02:54 | we would have found odd | ||
| 65 | 02:56 | or disturbing, | ||
| 66 | 02:58 | but they've quickly come to seem familiar, | ||
| 67 | 03:01 | just how we do things. | ||
| 68 | 03:03 | So just to take some quick examples: | ||
| 69 | 03:06 | People text or do email | ||
| 70 | 03:08 | during corporate board meetings. | ||
| 71 | 03:11 | They text and shop and go on Facebook | ||
| 72 | 03:14 | during classes, during presentations, | ||
| 73 | 03:17 | actually during all meetings. | ||
| 74 | 03:19 | People talk to me about the important new skill | ||
| 75 | 03:22 | of making eye contact | ||
| 76 | 03:24 | while you're texting. | ||
| 77 | 03:26 | (Laughter) | ||
| 78 | 03:28 | People explain to me | ||
| 79 | 03:30 | that it's hard, but that it can be done. | ||
| 80 | 03:33 | Parents text and do email | ||
| 81 | 03:35 | at breakfast and at dinner | ||
| 82 | 03:37 | while their children complain | ||
| 83 | 03:40 | about not having their parents' full attention. | ||
| 84 | 03:42 | But then these same children | ||
| 85 | 03:44 | deny each other their full attention. | ||
| 86 | 03:47 | This is a recent shot | ||
| 87 | 03:49 | of my daughter and her friends | ||
| 88 | 03:52 | being together | ||
| 89 | 03:54 | while not being together. | ||
| 90 | 03:57 | And we even text at funerals. | ||
| 91 | 03:59 | I study this. | ||
| 92 | 04:01 | We remove ourselves | ||
| 93 | 04:03 | from our grief or from our revery | ||
| 94 | 04:05 | and we go into our phones. | ||
| 95 | 04:08 | Why does this matter? | ||
| 96 | 04:10 | It matters to me | ||
| 97 | 04:12 | because I think we're setting ourselves up for trouble -- | ||
| 98 | 04:15 | trouble certainly | ||
| 99 | 04:17 | in how we relate to each other, | ||
| 100 | 04:19 | but also trouble | ||
| 101 | 04:21 | in how we relate to ourselves | ||
| 102 | 04:24 | and our capacity for self-reflection. | ||
| 103 | 04:27 | We're getting used to a new way | ||
| 104 | 04:29 | of being alone together. | ||
| 105 | 04:32 | People want to be with each other, | ||
| 106 | 04:34 | but also elsewhere -- | ||
| 107 | 04:36 | connected to all the different places they want to be. | ||
| 108 | 04:39 | People want to customize their lives. | ||
| 109 | 04:42 | They want to go in and out of all the places they are | ||
| 110 | 04:45 | because the thing that matters most to them | ||
| 111 | 04:47 | is control over where they put their attention. | ||
| 112 | 04:51 | So you want to go to that board meeting, | ||
| 113 | 04:54 | but you only want to pay attention | ||
| 114 | 04:56 | to the bits that interest you. | ||
| 115 | 04:58 | And some people think that's a good thing. | ||
| 116 | 05:01 | But you can end up | ||
| 117 | 05:03 | hiding from each other, | ||
| 118 | 05:05 | even as we're all constantly connected to each other. | ||
| 119 | 05:08 | A 50-year-old business man | ||
| 120 | 05:10 | lamented to me | ||
| 121 | 05:12 | that he feels he doesn't have colleagues anymore at work. | ||
| 122 | 05:15 | When he goes to work, he doesn't stop by to talk to anybody, | ||
| 123 | 05:18 | he doesn't call. | ||
| 124 | 05:20 | And he says he doesn't want to interrupt his colleagues | ||
| 125 | 05:23 | because, he says, "They're too busy on their email." | ||
| 126 | 05:26 | But then he stops himself | ||
| 127 | 05:28 | and he says, "You know, I'm not telling you the truth. | ||
| 128 | 05:30 | I'm the one who doesn't want to be interrupted. | ||
| 129 | 05:33 | I think I should want to, | ||
| 130 | 05:35 | but actually I'd rather just do things on my Blackberry." | ||
| 131 | 05:39 | Across the generations, | ||
| 132 | 05:41 | I see that people can't get enough of each other, | ||
| 133 | 05:45 | if and only if | ||
| 134 | 05:47 | they can have each other at a distance, | ||
| 135 | 05:50 | in amounts they can control. | ||
| 136 | 05:52 | I call it the Goldilocks effect: | ||
| 137 | 05:55 | not too close, not too far, | ||
| 138 | 05:58 | just right. | ||
| 139 | 06:00 | But what might feel just right | ||
| 140 | 06:02 | for that middle-aged executive | ||
| 141 | 06:04 | can be a problem for an adolescent | ||
| 142 | 06:06 | who needs to develop face-to-face relationships. | ||
| 143 | 06:10 | An 18-year-old boy | ||
| 144 | 06:12 | who uses texting for almost everything | ||
| 145 | 06:15 | says to me wistfully, | ||
| 146 | 06:17 | "Someday, someday, | ||
| 147 | 06:20 | but certainly not now, | ||
| 148 | 06:22 | I'd like to learn how to have a conversation." | ||
| 149 | 06:26 | When I ask people | ||
| 150 | 06:28 | "What's wrong with having a conversation?" | ||
| 151 | 06:31 | People say, "I'll tell you what's wrong with having a conversation. | ||
| 152 | 06:35 | It takes place in real time | ||
| 153 | 06:38 | and you can't control what you're going to say." | ||
| 154 | 06:42 | So that's the bottom line. | ||
| 155 | 06:44 | Texting, email, posting, | ||
| 156 | 06:47 | all of these things | ||
| 157 | 06:49 | let us present the self as we want to be. | ||
| 158 | 06:52 | We get to edit, | ||
| 159 | 06:54 | and that means we get to delete, | ||
| 160 | 06:57 | and that means we get to retouch, | ||
| 161 | 07:00 | the face, the voice, | ||
| 162 | 07:02 | the flesh, the body -- | ||
| 163 | 07:04 | not too little, not too much, | ||
| 164 | 07:07 | just right. | ||
| 165 | 07:09 | Human relationships | ||
| 166 | 07:11 | are rich and they're messy | ||
| 167 | 07:13 | and they're demanding. | ||
| 168 | 07:15 | And we clean them up with technology. | ||
| 169 | 07:18 | And when we do, | ||
| 170 | 07:20 | one of the things that can happen | ||
| 171 | 07:22 | is that we sacrifice conversation | ||
| 172 | 07:24 | for mere connection. | ||
| 173 | 07:26 | We short-change ourselves. | ||
| 174 | 07:29 | And over time, | ||
| 175 | 07:31 | we seem to forget this, | ||
| 176 | 07:33 | or we seem to stop caring. | ||
| 177 | 07:36 | I was caught off guard | ||
| 178 | 07:40 | when Stephen Colbert | ||
| 179 | 07:42 | asked me a profound question, | ||
| 180 | 07:46 | a profound question. | ||
| 181 | 07:49 | He said, "Don't all those little tweets, | ||
| 182 | 07:55 | don't all those little sips | ||
| 183 | 07:58 | of online communication, | ||
| 184 | 08:01 | add up to one big gulp | ||
| 185 | 08:04 | of real conversation?" | ||
| 186 | 08:08 | My answer was no, | ||
| 187 | 08:10 | they don't add up. | ||
| 188 | 08:12 | Connecting in sips may work | ||
| 189 | 08:16 | for gathering discrete bits of information, | ||
| 190 | 08:20 | they may work for saying, "I'm thinking about you," | ||
| 191 | 08:24 | or even for saying, "I love you," -- | ||
| 192 | 08:26 | I mean, look at how I felt | ||
| 193 | 08:28 | when I got that text from my daughter -- | ||
| 194 | 08:31 | but they don't really work | ||
| 195 | 08:33 | for learning about each other, | ||
| 196 | 08:35 | for really coming to know and understand each other. | ||
| 197 | 08:39 | And we use conversations with each other | ||
| 198 | 08:43 | to learn how to have conversations | ||
| 199 | 08:45 | with ourselves. | ||
| 200 | 08:47 | So a flight from conversation | ||
| 201 | 08:49 | can really matter | ||
| 202 | 08:51 | because it can compromise | ||
| 203 | 08:53 | our capacity for self-reflection. | ||
| 204 | 08:55 | For kids growing up, | ||
| 205 | 08:57 | that skill is the bedrock of development. | ||
| 206 | 09:01 | Over and over I hear, | ||
| 207 | 09:03 | "I would rather text than talk." | ||
| 208 | 09:06 | And what I'm seeing | ||
| 209 | 09:08 | is that people get so used to being short-changed | ||
| 210 | 09:10 | out of real conversation, | ||
| 211 | 09:12 | so used to getting by with less, | ||
| 212 | 09:15 | that they've become almost willing | ||
| 213 | 09:17 | to dispense with people altogether. | ||
| 214 | 09:19 | So for example, | ||
| 215 | 09:21 | many people share with me this wish, | ||
| 216 | 09:23 | that some day a more advanced version of Siri, | ||
| 217 | 09:26 | the digital assistant on Apple's iPhone, | ||
| 218 | 09:29 | will be more like a best friend, | ||
| 219 | 09:31 | someone who will listen | ||
| 220 | 09:33 | when others won't. | ||
| 221 | 09:35 | I believe this wish | ||
| 222 | 09:37 | reflects a painful truth | ||
| 223 | 09:39 | that I've learned in the past 15 years. | ||
| 224 | 09:42 | That feeling that no one is listening to me | ||
| 225 | 09:46 | is very important | ||
| 226 | 09:48 | in our relationships with technology. | ||
| 227 | 09:50 | That's why it's so appealing | ||
| 228 | 09:52 | to have a Facebook page | ||
| 229 | 09:54 | or a Twitter feed -- | ||
| 230 | 09:56 | so many automatic listeners. | ||
| 231 | 09:59 | And the feeling that no one is listening to me | ||
| 232 | 10:02 | make us want to spend time | ||
| 233 | 10:04 | with machines that seem to care about us. | ||
| 234 | 10:07 | We're developing robots, | ||
| 235 | 10:09 | they call them sociable robots, | ||
| 236 | 10:11 | that are specifically designed to be companions -- | ||
| 237 | 10:14 | to the elderly, | ||
| 238 | 10:16 | to our children, | ||
| 239 | 10:18 | to us. | ||
| 240 | 10:20 | Have we so lost confidence | ||
| 241 | 10:23 | that we will be there for each other? | ||
| 242 | 10:27 | During my research | ||
| 243 | 10:29 | I worked in nursing homes, | ||
| 244 | 10:31 | and I brought in these sociable robots | ||
| 245 | 10:34 | that were designed to give the elderly | ||
| 246 | 10:36 | the feeling that they were understood. | ||
| 247 | 10:39 | And one day I came in | ||
| 248 | 10:41 | and a woman who had lost a child | ||
| 249 | 10:43 | was talking to a robot | ||
| 250 | 10:45 | in the shape of a baby seal. | ||
| 251 | 10:48 | It seemed to be looking in her eyes. | ||
| 252 | 10:50 | It seemed to be following the conversation. | ||
| 253 | 10:53 | It comforted her. | ||
| 254 | 10:56 | And many people found this amazing. | ||
| 255 | 11:00 | But that woman was trying to make sense of her life | ||
| 256 | 11:05 | with a machine that had no experience | ||
| 257 | 11:08 | of the arc of a human life. | ||
| 258 | 11:11 | That robot put on a great show. | ||
| 259 | 11:13 | And we're vulnerable. | ||
| 260 | 11:15 | People experience pretend empathy | ||
| 261 | 11:18 | as though it were the real thing. | ||
| 262 | 11:21 | So during that moment | ||
| 263 | 11:25 | when that woman | ||
| 264 | 11:27 | was experiencing that pretend empathy, | ||
| 265 | 11:30 | I was thinking, "That robot can't empathize. | ||
| 266 | 11:33 | It doesn't face death. | ||
| 267 | 11:35 | It doesn't know life." | ||
| 268 | 11:37 | And as that woman took comfort | ||
| 269 | 11:39 | in her robot companion, | ||
| 270 | 11:41 | I didn't find it amazing; | ||
| 271 | 11:43 | I found it one of the most wrenching, complicated moments | ||
| 272 | 11:47 | in my 15 years of work. | ||
| 273 | 11:51 | But when I stepped back, | ||
| 274 | 11:53 | I felt myself | ||
| 275 | 11:55 | at the cold, hard center | ||
| 276 | 11:58 | of a perfect storm. | ||
| 277 | 12:00 | We expect more from technology | ||
| 278 | 12:03 | and less from each other. | ||
| 279 | 12:06 | And I ask myself, | ||
| 280 | 12:08 | "Why have things come to this?" | ||
| 281 | 12:11 | And I believe it's because | ||
| 282 | 12:13 | technology appeals to us most | ||
| 283 | 12:16 | where we are most vulnerable. | ||
| 284 | 12:18 | And we are vulnerable. | ||
| 285 | 12:20 | We're lonely, | ||
| 286 | 12:22 | but we're afraid of intimacy. | ||
| 287 | 12:24 | And so from social networks to sociable robots, | ||
| 288 | 12:27 | we're designing technologies | ||
| 289 | 12:29 | that will give us the illusion of companionship | ||
| 290 | 12:32 | without the demands of friendship. | ||
| 291 | 12:34 | We turn to technology to help us feel connected | ||
| 292 | 12:37 | in ways we can comfortably control. | ||
| 293 | 12:40 | But we're not so comfortable. | ||
| 294 | 12:42 | We are not so much in control. | ||
| 295 | 12:45 | These days, those phones in our pockets | ||
| 296 | 12:48 | are changing our minds and hearts | ||
| 297 | 12:50 | because they offer us | ||
| 298 | 12:52 | three gratifying fantasies. | ||
| 299 | 12:54 | One, that we can put our attention | ||
| 300 | 12:56 | wherever we want it to be; | ||
| 301 | 12:58 | two, that we will always be heard; | ||
| 302 | 13:01 | and three, that we will never have to be alone. | ||
| 303 | 13:04 | And that third idea, | ||
| 304 | 13:06 | that we will never have to be alone, | ||
| 305 | 13:09 | is central to changing our psyches. | ||
| 306 | 13:11 | Because the moment that people are alone, | ||
| 307 | 13:14 | even for a few seconds, | ||
| 308 | 13:16 | they become anxious, they panic, they fidget, | ||
| 309 | 13:19 | they reach for a device. | ||
| 310 | 13:21 | Just think of people at a checkout line | ||
| 311 | 13:23 | or at a red light. | ||
| 312 | 13:25 | Being alone feels like a problem that needs to be solved. | ||
| 313 | 13:29 | And so people try to solve it by connecting. | ||
| 314 | 13:32 | But here, connection | ||
| 315 | 13:34 | is more like a symptom than a cure. | ||
| 316 | 13:37 | It expresses, but it doesn't solve, | ||
| 317 | 13:40 | an underlying problem. | ||
| 318 | 13:42 | But more than a symptom, | ||
| 319 | 13:44 | constant connection is changing | ||
| 320 | 13:46 | the way people think of themselves. | ||
| 321 | 13:48 | It's shaping a new way of being. | ||
| 322 | 13:51 | The best way to describe it is, | ||
| 323 | 13:53 | I share therefore I am. | ||
| 324 | 13:56 | We use technology to define ourselves | ||
| 325 | 13:59 | by sharing our thoughts and feelings | ||
| 326 | 14:01 | even as we're having them. | ||
| 327 | 14:03 | So before it was: | ||
| 328 | 14:05 | I have a feeling, | ||
| 329 | 14:07 | I want to make a call. | ||
| 330 | 14:09 | Now it's: I want to have a feeling, | ||
| 331 | 14:12 | I need to send a text. | ||
| 332 | 14:14 | The problem with this new regime | ||
| 333 | 14:17 | of "I share therefore I am" | ||
| 334 | 14:19 | is that, if we don't have connection, | ||
| 335 | 14:21 | we don't feel like ourselves. | ||
| 336 | 14:23 | We almost don't feel ourselves. | ||
| 337 | 14:25 | So what do we do? We connect more and more. | ||
| 338 | 14:28 | But in the process, | ||
| 339 | 14:30 | we set ourselves up to be isolated. | ||
| 340 | 14:33 | How do you get from connection to isolation? | ||
| 341 | 14:37 | You end up isolated | ||
| 342 | 14:39 | if you don't cultivate the capacity for solitude, | ||
| 343 | 14:41 | the ability to be separate, | ||
| 344 | 14:44 | to gather yourself. | ||
| 345 | 14:46 | Solitude is where you find yourself | ||
| 346 | 14:49 | so that you can reach out to other people | ||
| 347 | 14:51 | and form real attachments. | ||
| 348 | 14:54 | When we don't have the capacity for solitude, | ||
| 349 | 14:57 | we turn to other people in order to feel less anxious | ||
| 350 | 15:00 | or in order to feel alive. | ||
| 351 | 15:02 | When this happens, | ||
| 352 | 15:04 | we're not able to appreciate who they are. | ||
| 353 | 15:07 | It's as though we're using them | ||
| 354 | 15:09 | as spare parts | ||
| 355 | 15:11 | to support our fragile sense of self. | ||
| 356 | 15:14 | We slip into thinking that always being connected | ||
| 357 | 15:17 | is going to make us feel less alone. | ||
| 358 | 15:21 | But we're at risk, | ||
| 359 | 15:23 | because actually it's the opposite that's true. | ||
| 360 | 15:26 | If we're not able to be alone, | ||
| 361 | 15:28 | we're going to be more lonely. | ||
| 362 | 15:30 | And if we don't teach our children to be alone, | ||
| 363 | 15:33 | they're only going to know | ||
| 364 | 15:35 | how to be lonely. | ||
| 365 | 15:37 | When I spoke at TED in 1996, | ||
| 366 | 15:40 | reporting on my studies | ||
| 367 | 15:42 | of the early virtual communities, | ||
| 368 | 15:44 | I said, "Those who make the most | ||
| 369 | 15:47 | of their lives on the screen | ||
| 370 | 15:49 | come to it in a spirit of self-reflection." | ||
| 371 | 15:52 | And that's what I'm calling for here, now: | ||
| 372 | 15:55 | reflection and, more than that, a conversation | ||
| 373 | 15:58 | about where our current use of technology | ||
| 374 | 16:01 | may be taking us, | ||
| 375 | 16:03 | what it might be costing us. | ||
| 376 | 16:05 | We're smitten with technology. | ||
| 377 | 16:08 | And we're afraid, like young lovers, | ||
| 378 | 16:11 | that too much talking might spoil the romance. | ||
| 379 | 16:14 | But it's time to talk. | ||
| 380 | 16:16 | We grew up with digital technology | ||
| 381 | 16:19 | and so we see it as all grown up. | ||
| 382 | 16:21 | But it's not, it's early days. | ||
| 383 | 16:24 | There's plenty of time | ||
| 384 | 16:26 | for us to reconsider how we use it, | ||
| 385 | 16:28 | how we build it. | ||
| 386 | 16:30 | I'm not suggesting | ||
| 387 | 16:32 | that we turn away from our devices, | ||
| 388 | 16:34 | just that we develop a more self-aware relationship | ||
| 389 | 16:37 | with them, with each other | ||
| 390 | 16:39 | and with ourselves. | ||
| 391 | 16:42 | I see some first steps. | ||
| 392 | 16:44 | Start thinking of solitude | ||
| 393 | 16:46 | as a good thing. | ||
| 394 | 16:48 | Make room for it. | ||
| 395 | 16:50 | Find ways to demonstrate this | ||
| 396 | 16:53 | as a value to your children. | ||
| 397 | 16:55 | Create sacred spaces at home -- | ||
| 398 | 16:57 | the kitchen, the dining room -- | ||
| 399 | 16:59 | and reclaim them for conversation. | ||
| 400 | 17:02 | Do the same thing at work. | ||
| 401 | 17:04 | At work, we're so busy communicating | ||
| 402 | 17:06 | that we often don't have time to think, | ||
| 403 | 17:09 | we don't have time to talk, | ||
| 404 | 17:12 | about the things that really matter. | ||
| 405 | 17:14 | Change that. | ||
| 406 | 17:16 | Most important, we all really need to listen to each other, | ||
| 407 | 17:20 | including to the boring bits. | ||
| 408 | 17:24 | Because it's when we stumble | ||
| 409 | 17:26 | or hesitate or lose our words | ||
| 410 | 17:29 | that we reveal ourselves to each other. | ||
| 411 | 17:33 | Technology is making a bid | ||
| 412 | 17:36 | to redefine human connection -- | ||
| 413 | 17:38 | how we care for each other, | ||
| 414 | 17:40 | how we care for ourselves -- | ||
| 415 | 17:42 | but it's also giving us the opportunity | ||
| 416 | 17:44 | to affirm our values | ||
| 417 | 17:46 | and our direction. | ||
| 418 | 17:48 | I'm optimistic. | ||
| 419 | 17:50 | We have everything we need to start. | ||
| 420 | 17:53 | We have each other. | ||
| 421 | 17:55 | And we have the greatest chance of success | ||
| 422 | 17:58 | if we recognize our vulnerability. | ||
| 423 | 18:01 | That we listen | ||
| 424 | 18:03 | when technology says | ||
| 425 | 18:05 | it will take something complicated | ||
| 426 | 18:08 | and promises something simpler. | ||
| 427 | 18:11 | So in my work, | ||
| 428 | 18:13 | I hear that life is hard, | ||
| 429 | 18:16 | relationships are filled with risk. | ||
| 430 | 18:18 | And then there's technology -- | ||
| 431 | 18:20 | simpler, hopeful, | ||
| 432 | 18:22 | optimistic, ever-young. | ||
| 433 | 18:25 | It's like calling in the cavalry. | ||
| 434 | 18:27 | An ad campaign promises | ||
| 435 | 18:29 | that online and with avatars, | ||
| 436 | 18:31 | you can "Finally, love your friends | ||
| 437 | 18:35 | love your body, love your life, | ||
| 438 | 18:38 | online and with avatars." | ||
| 439 | 18:41 | We're drawn to virtual romance, | ||
| 440 | 18:43 | to computer games that seem like worlds, | ||
| 441 | 18:46 | to the idea that robots, robots, | ||
| 442 | 18:50 | will someday be our true companions. | ||
| 443 | 18:53 | We spend an evening on the social network | ||
| 444 | 18:56 | instead of going to the pub with friends. | ||
| 445 | 18:59 | But our fantasies of substitution | ||
| 446 | 19:01 | have cost us. | ||
| 447 | 19:04 | Now we all need to focus | ||
| 448 | 19:07 | on the many, many ways | ||
| 449 | 19:09 | technology can lead us back | ||
| 450 | 19:11 | to our real lives, our own bodies, | ||
| 451 | 19:14 | our own communities, | ||
| 452 | 19:16 | our own politics, | ||
| 453 | 19:18 | our own planet. | ||
| 454 | 19:20 | They need us. | ||
| 455 | 19:22 | Let's talk about | ||
| 456 | 19:24 | how we can use digital technology, | ||
| 457 | 19:27 | the technology of our dreams, | ||
| 458 | 19:30 | to make this life | ||
| 459 | 19:32 | the life we can love. | ||
| 460 | 19:34 | Thank you. | ||
| 461 | 19:36 | (Applause) |